Weekly Round-Up

This week in blogs, the news, and wherever else happened to catch my attention:

Next summer, the 2009 National LGBTI Health Summit will happen in Chicago in conjunction with the Bi Health Summit; bisexuality is also slated to have a broader presence at the LGBTI event.

This XKCD made me giggle. I wonder if I would have been offended by it if I didn’t already love the comic and its creator’s liberal, feminist stances (it probably also helps that my sister met him at a friend’s wedding, and if both she and this friend think he’s awesome, I’m convinced), but as it is I’m just amused.

EHarmony is trying to avoid looking like homophobic asshats by launching a new site for same-sex matching – but of course neither site caters to bisexuals, who would have to join both and pay twice. ‘Cause I didn’t dislike them enough already. (Bets that the new site won’t be nearly as good?)

Melissa George, now playing a bisexual intern on Grey’s anatomy, is also saying dumb things about her character (or maybe she’s observing her character accurately and someone’s written her as stereotypical and obnoxious — not unlikely). For example, “”If it’s a male, she’ll go for it. If it’s a female, she’ll go for it. She doesn’t think attraction should be limited by gender . . . But she seems to get a thrill out of shocking people.” She also suggests that the writers may be experimenting with bisexuality because they’re bored. Mmm. It’s so nice to be a spicy plot device.

Patrick Harvie was just appointed leader of the Scottish Green party, making him “the first openly bisexual leader of a political party in Britain.”

Some girl is okay with continuing to date a new guy even now that he’s out to her a bisexual. Big minus: she describes him as “half gay” and seems surprised that he could be bi when he’s so clearly into sex with her, a girl (um, yes, that is how it works). Big plus: she’s actually learning from him and thinking about sexuality in new ways rather than listening to her friends’ advice and dumping him because he’s a disease vector or secretly gay or some such ridiculousness.

Wayne Besen, guest-blogging on Bilerico, has an interesting take on what went wrong with the No on 8 campaign and where marriage advocates should be turning their attention. You probably already know that marriage is hardly my highest priority, but I’ve been somewhat persuaded by recent arguments that Prop 8 is important because it put the rights of a minority up a a vote of the majority, and marriage or not, that’s a scary, dangerous precedent to set. Anyway, Mr. Besen has some interesting things to say that could apply to queer rights other than marriage; I particularly like the point that lobbyists without people behind them are useless and that a few people shouldn’t be trying to control the message (although personally I believe that’s less because the internet makes it impossible and more because drowning out the voices of the people you claim to be advocating for is wrong.)

And on the subject of marriage, this call to simply stop acknowledging the marriages of those around one both amuses and tempts me. I’m too polite and nonconfrontational myself to do much of it, most likely, but…fun!

6 Responses to “Weekly Round-Up”

  1. 1 Wilhelmina
    28 November 2008 at 8:10 pm

    “half-gay”? eh. i sometimes refer to myself as that, but only to justify the way my ears perk up when i hear the word ‘lesbian’ even if i’m not one, technically.

    “bi was something I’d mentally assigned to girls, not guys”

    funny, that. i’ve actually had many discussions with friends about why there seem to be so many bi girls and so many gay guys, and less of the vice versa. i wonder if that’s true/why that is.

  2. 2 Rachel
    29 November 2008 at 2:11 pm

    I read about that new eHarmony site… and beyond the fact that bisexuals have to pay twice, you should know they’re only doing it because a court ordered them too. It’s not out of a sudden desire to help gay people meet each other. The court said they couldn’t discriminate, but gave them the option of either allowing homosexuals on their site, or creating a new, separate one.

  3. 3 rkt
    30 November 2008 at 12:48 am

    let me preface this by saying that grey’s voice over annoys me and i can barely stand tv, anyway…. so i am really way out of the loop on this show, overall.

    but from all i understand, melissa george’s character replaces the lesbian character played by brooke smith, and that smith was mysteriously fired when things were looking like the lesbian relationship that was brewing was becoming too realistic (read:’normal’) for abc-disney’s comfort.
    which, if true, is problematic in and of itself… but even more so in reflection of how Isaiah Washington’s slur situation was handled.

    i somehow have more faith in fox’s handling of the bisexual/lesbianic subplot in bones.

  4. 1 December 2008 at 4:00 pm

    The new eHarmony site, called Compatible Partners, is the result of an out-of-court settlement (not actually a court order). I think there is a strong argument that operating two separate dating sites in this way constitutes discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation. Bisexual folks can still use either site, but they lack the “full and equal enjoyment” thereof. While there is precedent for applying discrimination laws to these sites, there is no precedent I know of for such a theory of anti-bisexual discrimination.

  5. 5 December 2008 at 3:56 am

    That eHarmony story is outrageous! xo SF

  6. 6 Aviva
    7 December 2008 at 6:30 pm

    Wilhelmina: Yeah, I’ll joke abot being half gay, but it’s different to say it sincerely from the outside. And my opinion is that there aren’t more bi women than men, or that if there are it’s a matter of more women claiming the identity because it’s less stigmatized. It gets talked about more because our culture fetishizes rather than vilifying it.

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